Ernie wrote: ↑Wed Jan 31, 2024 4:37 pm
Ken wrote: ↑Wed Jan 31, 2024 10:13 amI do object to the notion that conforming to and enforcing one particular style of dress or costume over another is more Christian or Biblical. That is all.
I don't know of anyone on MN who is trying to make a case for this. Do you know of anyone?
The only thing that I know anybody is trying to make a case for is the privilege of a person or a church or a group of churches to continue wearing something similar to what they've always worn, rather than feel pressure from folks like Ken and Sudsy to adjust their clothing to whatever the majority of society happens to be practicing in any particular era.
I don't know about Mennonet.
But in my lived experience that most certainly happens as I relayed upstream in the story about my grandfather.
And I expect that this is exactly what many young women are being taught in many churches around the country.
If you read what I write, I object to pressures on young women in BOTH directions, from society and sometimes from church.
I object to the pressures of fashion that young women experience in society (and it is mostly young women). I see it with my own daughters and my wife and we try to teach them to resist the whims of fashion, especially when inappropriate. And they generally do so in ways that make us proud.
I also have reservations about conservative churches that focus on conformity of dress. Let me be clear. It isn't the actual dress I object to. I have absolutely on problem with cape dresses or any other kind of dress. It is the message that both outward appearance and conformity are important Biblical values. They are not. Dress is barely mentioned in the Bible and not at all by Jesus. And conformity to rigid standards of appearance is not addressed anywhere. I think we are sending young women the wrong message when we obsess about what they wear and nit-pick their appearance. Especially compared to what is inside. Teaching is a zero-sum game in many ways. If you are a church, you only have so much attention span from your young people. Choose wisely when you decide what to focus on and what values you wish to impart. As I relayed above, my grandfather did not choose wisely and as a consequence, most of his female grandchildren do not remember him fondly, nor did they learn anything from him other than his own specific version of puritanism. Because that is all he ever shared with them.