Discipline measures your church uses? (And public confessions?)

[Grace]

I feel like every post that I have participated on thus far in MN ends up being a Josh vs Ken debate until they move on to the next thread.

Maybe they need their own topic board....

That may be true, but debate and discussion is part of Mennonet. There have been many times I have learned something because of a discussion.

[Ernie]

I absolutely agree with you; I often wonder if I am doing more harm than good when I force my older kids to apologize to one another after some sort of squabble.

FWIW, We ask our children to acknowledge that they did the wrong thing, but we do not ask them to apologize.

And to confess it by name to the Lord on the spot?

No, because I think confessions to the Lord should be voluntary.

[Joy]

I absolutely agree with you; I often wonder if I am doing more harm than good when I force my older kids to apologize to one another after some sort of squabble.

FWIW, We ask our children to acknowledge that they did the wrong thing, but we do not ask them to apologize.

And to confess it by name to the Lord on the spot?

No, because I think confessions to the Lord should be voluntary.

So they have to confess it to you, but not to the Lord?

[Laurell]

I absolutely agree with you; I often wonder if I am doing more harm than good when I force my older kids to apologize to one another after some sort of squabble.

FWIW, We ask our children to acknowledge that they did the wrong thing, but we do not ask them to apologize.

And to confess it by name to the Lord on the spot?

No, because I think confessions to the Lord should be voluntary.

What about before the age of accountability? Do you feel like it is your responsibility to instruct and model what it should look like, so when they reach an age where they can work out their own salvation with fear & trembling, they have a concept of what that looks like?