Ken wrote: ↑Wed Apr 12, 2023 7:47 pm
Bootstrap wrote: ↑Wed Apr 12, 2023 6:40 pm
Josh wrote: ↑Wed Apr 12, 2023 7:32 am
A marital counsellor usually doesn’t let one spouse blame 100% of its problems on the other and then hold one spouse to be at fault for the other spouse’s bad behaviour.
Precisely. That's a central point of my analogy.
And it is why your analogy is inaccurate when it comes to race in America.
Just to give one example to make the point. Here is a long story about a certain well-known landlord in New York City who notoriously discriminated against Blacks ...
So you think we should put the blame entirely on one side, always treating blacks as innocent victims of whites? And you have some examples of bad behavior by whites, but none of bad behavior by blacks?
I think that's the problem I'm talking about. People separate into their own camps, blaming the other. Instead of coming together and working things out together. Especially on the national level, I think. In my city, we see blacks and whites working things out at the city government level, in the county, in the schools. Look at our national media. Each side often polarizes race and make it an identity issue - for both whites and blacks - and erupts in blame at the other. On the one side, they claim that they do not see race but simply can't stop talking about it in very emotional tones, it's clearly a big issue on their minds. On the other side, they are building a theology of wokeness and are nervous about facing the complexities of race and class and discussing the importance of personal responsibility. One side emphasizes how much they care about black lives, the other emphasizes how much they care about police lives and law and order, it's hard to find mature discussion that takes both seriously. That's a problem.
As a country, I think we are moving backwards on race. And a big part of that is that we are having a harder time discussing these things in ways that can lead to real solutions. I don't think either a police state or a completely woke society will solve the problems of inner city poverty. I do think there are things society can do that make a difference. But they aren't a prominent part of our discussion. We're too busy blaming each other and taking sides.
Like a married couple who can't balance their budget because they are too busy arguing about whose fault it is. They never get down to the business of calmly talking through income and expenses and making wise choices.