OK. In that case, the normal stresses of motherhood seemed to be more than this woman could handle. I agree that the stresses of parenthood are difficult, but the simple fact is that life often isn't "easy". From the sounds of it, she couldn't handle these stresses.
Unfortunately given a short narrative like this a lot of assumptions have to be made. I'm not sure what else to do (particularly since obviously you don't want to give personally identifying details).A lot of assumptions are being made here... I don't want to explain the situation further...Josh wrote: ↑Thu Feb 08, 2024 10:51 am Ok… when you have small children or a baby, I think expecting a good night’s sleep is just off the table. If terribly sleep deprived mom can try to take naps during the day.
Some men have occupations where they cannot be sleep deprived (trucking is the best example of this). Either the church needs to teach against such occupations or else the wife will need to accept that she’s going to have to deal with children waking up at night until they are sleep trained adequately. The latter can take a while with some children.
Overall, I think belief in Jesus as the Son of God and as our Lord and saviour is the most important decision that any person ever makes in their life. And then, following that decision, accepting Jesus' lordship into one's life, and holding fast to that for eternity. That includes any bad marriage situations... bad church situations... bad people... being taken advantage of...Again... A lot of assumptions are being made here...Josh wrote: ↑Thu Feb 08, 2024 10:51 am My bigger question is why the husband became an agnostic. That would seem to point to a bigger sin area in his life.
Overall, it sounds like both of these people decided to destroy their lives for sinful reasons and did not choose to live lives dedicated to serving Christ first before all else.
I cannot imagine a worse life outcome for me than ending up being an agnostic (again). However, I do want to recognise the importance of the shepherds of the flock in helping a weak brother or sister not lose their faith. So I would say perhaps the leadership could have done more - but on the other hand, perhaps they are already scratching their heads and asking themselves, "Did we do enough?"
Ultimately I don't want to make it to the judgment seat and Jesus says, "Depart from me, for I never knew you," and my answer is "Well, church leaders hurt me and made mistakes, so I chose to be offended and stop believing in you."