We will be married 29 years this July.
14 children (set of twins in there!), two grandchildren. We've been through our battles over the years.
It is safe to say my affection for my wife has changed. We are far from newlyweds. The "spark" is still there but I suppose it has matured.
What say you? What is it like in your relationship?
Has the love and/or affection towards your spouse changed?
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the-real-steve
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Has the love and/or affection towards your spouse changed?
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Formerly know as steve-in-kville
Hippie Anabaptist, husband, father & grandfather (recently!)
Semi-professional philosopher & poet.
Hippie Anabaptist, husband, father & grandfather (recently!)
Semi-professional philosopher & poet.
Re: Has the love and/or affection towards your spouse changed?
Same here. I would clarify to say that the nature of our affection has changed, but if anything, our affection is stronger.the-real-steve wrote: ↑Fri Apr 03, 2026 9:16 am It is safe to say my affection for my wife has changed. We are far from newlyweds. The "spark" is still there but I suppose it has matured.
What say you? What is it like in your relationship?
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"The old woodcutter spoke again,
'You people are obsessed with judging. Don’t go so far. We only have a fragment. Life comes in fragments...
It is impossible to talk with you. You always draw conclusions.' "
'You people are obsessed with judging. Don’t go so far. We only have a fragment. Life comes in fragments...
It is impossible to talk with you. You always draw conclusions.' "
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JohnL
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Re: Has the love and/or affection towards your spouse changed?
Yep but it’s supposed to change. When young the hormones drive a lot of behaviors. Hopefully as age increases those hormonal desires get replaced with mature wisdom and increased perspective.
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Free Will Baptist <-> Anabaptist
”Try hard not to offend. Try harder not to be offended.” Robert Martz
”Try hard not to offend. Try harder not to be offended.” Robert Martz
Re: Has the love and/or affection towards your spouse changed?
It takes a lot of years to build the kind of marriage we have now. We have been through so much together. We trust each other, based on experience, and we have learned to listen to and understand each other at levels that were not possible in our earlier years.
I am a different person because of our marriage. My wife is so much of who I am today.
I am a different person because of our marriage. My wife is so much of who I am today.
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1. Are we discussing the topic? Good.
2. Are we going around and around in a fight? Let's stop doing that.
3. Is there some serious wrongdoing or relational injury? Let's address that, probably not in public and certainly not for show.
2. Are we going around and around in a fight? Let's stop doing that.
3. Is there some serious wrongdoing or relational injury? Let's address that, probably not in public and certainly not for show.
Re: Has the love and/or affection towards your spouse changed?
I think the biggest change after 24 years is my respect for her has been steadily going up.
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