By "the proud", you mean religious authorities who condemn people, believing they are more righteous, but fail to grasp the deeper meaning of God's teaching?Wade wrote:What about the people that Christ is speaking to in these passages?
He is addressing the proud.
I see this very similar to the way he address the Scribes and Pharisees about the woman caught in adultery. He told them:“Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her.”
Does God want religious authorities to tell people to break up their marriages and families? Of course not! That would be inconsistent with God's design. God wants us to be faithful to our spouses, and tells us not to divorce - but he doesn't say that we shouldn't notice if our spouse divorces us or engages in serial, unrepentant adultery, that's a teaching of man.Wade wrote:Did Christ want them to stone her? Of course not, that would be inconsistent with God's design. It was man that initiated sin and murder - not God!
Why do you think Jesus said "except for adultery"? And why doesn't Jesus say, "whoever divorces his wife - but of course, you might be surprised to learn that the person you married is not your wife, and you can certainly get rid of her ..."Wade wrote:So when he says,notice the similarity of addressing the proud? Was He saying to go and even divorce? Of course not, that would be inconsistent with God's design and what He just referred to from the beginning. It was man that initiated divorce - not God!"Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”
People know if they are married or not, and to whom. If you are married, be faithful to your spouse. If you do not have a spouse to be married to, you do not have a spouse to be faithful to. Don't overcomplicate it.
I really don't think that Jesus meant you can divorce anyone who has looked at someone else with lust. But someone who has gone off and had an affair with someone else, then sued you for divorce, then married that other person ... it's a rather different category. She does not want me to be faithful to her, she believe she is married to someone else.Wade wrote:I would be hard pressed to find a divorced person that could say that they were honestly %100 faithful with their eyes while married and is worthy of casting the first stone at his spouse.
Can you say you have been??????????
I don't think the Bible says I'm supposed to close my eyes and pretend none of that is true. That's why Jesus says "except for adultery" and Paul says that the abandoned spouse is no longer bound.
Better than? That's rather irrelevant. My first wife said she does not want the marriage, in no uncertain terms. There is no marriage to be faithful to. That's not a question of who is better.Wade wrote:But one could argue that because they have repented that they are better than his spouse and therefore fit for the exception...
I think you are saying that the entire rest of my life should be spent in (1) choosing to be unfaithful to a wife and family who actually want me, in a marriage that is bearing good fruit, and (2) hoping that some miracle occurs and my first wife repents and comes back to me. How often does that really happen? I mean, seriously?Wade wrote:What makes anyone think they deserve that mercy of time that they could have time to repent? Yet that is what God has giving to each of us...
Back to your starting point with prideful Pharisees and the woman caught in adultery. Many of us who have been divorced in a Bible believing church have experienced that religious pride, people who "know" all the answers for us, who feel like stoning us. But for the innocent spouse, there's a twist. You don't have to be the one who commits adultery and abandons your spouse. Religious people are often happy to stone you anyway. I can tell you many stories of this.
Indeed. In the story of the woman caught in adultery, that was a word both for the prideful Pharisees and the woman they almost murdered. Are you familiar with a book called, "Why do Christians Shoot their Wounded?"wade wrote:Repent while their is time...
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Jesus and Paul do not rail against the person whose spouse commits adultery and abandons him. They do not demand that he pretend he is still married when he so obviously is not. They do not hurl religious platitudes at these people. This is not the teaching of the Bible.
If God is calling people to be faithful to their marriages, do people really not worry that telling people to divorce might be a bad idea? If God wanted to teach that, I think he would have taught it very, very clearly so there would be no doubt.