Isn’t everything I say an opinion? I mean, I don’t have any force of authority other than my own.
I don’t have a set system for figuring this out. I trust my church a lot since it has good fruits and seems to match the NT in many ways. I believe there may be some “spots or wrinkles” even in the truest churchHow do you decide what to yield on and what not? And are there things that the Holdeman church yields on in relation to other Christians or is there no such yielding?
Yes, those are things that basically have been decided they aren’t important. My experience has been such things eventually all fall by the wayside.In the conservative Anabaptist churches, we are constantly "yielding" on things as we relate to other church groups. We may have strong convictions about certain things as an individual or congregation, but we don't force others to do like us in order to share pulpits with us or commune with us. (within a certain range of course).
Holdemans don’t have wide variance between congregations.It sounds like Holdeman's do the same thing within their fellowship.
What there is must be purely matter of preference. For example my congregation doesn’t have youth gatherings on Sunday nights. Most other congregations allow such gatherings. This is something that is not considered biblical or a matter of doctrine and practice, but is more like a service start time.
Our general belief is that what is sin in one city is sin in the next, and that there shouldn’t be a long list of things we do purely out of submission to one congregation’s decisions but should have a firmer basis than that.