temporal1 wrote: ↑Tue Apr 02, 2024 2:19 pm
RZehr wrote: ↑Tue Apr 02, 2024 10:44 am
Being a man is hard.
Yes. Thanks for saying it.
i admit, my view is not from insight, but from loss. losses.
husband, father, brother, grandfathers. uncles. brother in law. pastor. employers. friends. God designs us to carry on. He provides. but there is no substitute for what is missing.
i believe there are those present who understand my thoughts here.
interesting-enough, of all the losses my family has suffered, none were from suicide/attempted suicide, i’m grateful to be able to say.
i began learning about the special place males hold at about 10, when my grandfather died suddenly.
over years, i witnessed the ongoing loss it made on a big family, he left 9 adult children, many grandchildren .. our vibrant, busy family survived, but never the same. years later, my siblings and cousins have remarked similarly.
each one leaves a hole. scar tissue forms around the hole, but the hole remains.
i wonder if, as a culture, we could somehow convey to young boys+teens how important and special they are, HOW MUCH THEY ARE NEEDED, if this would help them resist lots of temptations that harm themselves and others? humans have a God-given sense of social responsibility that should be valued+nurtured. a TON of sin is resisted just because the potential sinner realizes his sin will harm his loved ones, and this price is too high. people who don’t value themselves more easily fall into sins+crimes.
when i think of so many men in prisons, i’m sad, all those men are needed in productive society.
it’s a failure+waste. not God’s plan.