Josh wrote: ↑Sat Feb 03, 2024 1:02 pm
temporal1 wrote: ↑Sat Feb 03, 2024 12:35 pm In the past, pretty smiling young men+women had the backup of management and security. And, the conscientious public.
Today, no one can count on backup from anywhere, criminals are catered to in courts, whether for theft, assault, murder ..
It’s been like a
godless hormone-fueled fraternity game of “hey, bro, how can we mess up social order?” since about 2008 or so, worsening every year. No sign it’s coming to an end.
It’s like a video game put into real life.
Very well said t1. Society should be one where women can feel safe being friendly and smiling.
If they are assaulted, attacked, or stalked, then there should be repercussions for that. But you’re right: instead we seem to have a new social order where assaulters can do whatever they want.
Yes, we should live in a society in which women should be able to smile or not smile, dress how they want, go where they want, have whatever careers that they want without the threat of harassment (or worse) from men.
But we don’t live in that society, do we?
I’m not sure where Temp came up with the year 2008. Is that just Obama derangement syndrome? In point of fact, the rates of sexual assault have been on a declining trend since the 1990s although there seems to have been an anomalous spike around 2018. But it it also depends on your definitions. I won’t toss out a bunch of graphs and statistics, you can look them up yourself. The “me too” movement first started around 2006 and culminated with powerful people like Harvey Weinstein being brought down in the 20-teens which would not have happened in earlier decades. So I would argue that we are actually moving AWAY from a society in which assaulters have free license. Much to the dismay of a lot of powerful men who were used to having free rein. Schools and colleges are also far more attune to the issue today than in decades past when it was more “boys will be boys”
The world that we do live in is one in which young women are constantly under the male gaze when in public and there are precautions that they need to take in terms of when and where they go places and how they interact with strangers. That has frankly always been the case. To think otherwise is naive. It is up to all of us, but especially men, to change it.
None of this is the FAULT of women. It is the fault of men. But being angry about it or indignant about it doesn’t change anything. My youngest daughter will be going off to college in about 8 months and I have had a lot of conversations with her about this very topic. Be smart, don’t trust strange guys or even guys you think you might know, don’t be alone in the wrong places, be aware of your surroundings, etc. etc. She knows all this but it is good to get reminders anyway.