In reality, we get irritated because someone else does not agree with us. When we tell them how they should think and they do not, we get mad and have to attack or reject the person because they will not think right.Hats Off wrote:It has been said that "arguing" is pointless; if you are right, there is no point in it and if you are wrong, why continue? However, I have noticed that usually when we talk of arguing, we refer to heated disagreements; those are the kind we want to avoid. When an author says that he will "argue" for a certain interpretation, that is similar to what we want to do on this forum. This "argument" is to present the facts as we see them, and hopefully convince you that our understanding is correct. Or, conversely, to learn that we do not have all the facts yet, or that our understanding is misguided. And yet always with due respect for the other.
In doing so, we put ourselves above the other. We also put knowledge above relationships. I do not think that is wisdom. Just selfish human knowledge. Kind of like the Publican.
There is a world of difference between "I understand it as" and "You are wrong." The first is an attempt to engage and build up a relationship. The later is a way to shut someone down and belittle them.