Poll: Modesty

When it just doesn't fit anywhere else.

Choose all that you agree with in a general way...

1. Modesty includes not wearing costly array
18
14%
2. Modesty includes dressing humbly, simply, and without ostentation
17
13%
3. Modesty includes covering the body
15
12%
4. Modesty includes wearing loose clothing and clothing that helps conceal a person's figure
13
10%
5. Since the Bible does not specifically say that we should dress modestly in order to make it easier for others to control their lustful thoughts, there cannot be any measure of truth in this idea at all.
1
1%
6. Some ideas and values in life can be arrived at intuitively or by observation, and the Bible does not need to specifically address it, in order for the thing to be true or good. (However, we should not make such conclusions equal with the teaching we find in the Bible.)
14
11%
7. Some discussions about modesty end up feeding and nurturing fetishes and this is not of God. These sorts of discussions should be eliminated, and our personal or corporate standards should not reflect these sorts of things.
8
6%
8. There can be value in a group of individuals agreeing to abide by certain modesty practices that will help and encourage them to live their lives in love and holiness for God and each other.
17
13%
9. While men and women should not be blamed for the lust issues of others, men and women should still be encouraged to consider the struggles of others and avoid dressing (or not dressing) in a way that could add to their struggles. We should try to put ourselves in other’s shoes and show kindness and deference to them when we can. It is possible to function this way towards others, without feeling or taking any blame if others cannot control their thoughts. And it is possible to function this way in a general sense, without stressing over whether we have for sure done enough, and without stressing over whether we have eliminated all possible ways for adding to the struggles of others.
17
13%
10. Women should be taught that whilst they should not try to make men lust after them, they are not responsible if men choose to lust after them and otherwise behave sinfully towards them. In particular, when a Christian man falls into sin with a woman, a woman should not be made to feel ‘you made him do this’. Every member should be taught to possess their own vessel.
10
8%
 
Total votes: 130

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GoodGirl wrote: Wed Feb 07, 2024 3:37 pm Before we became plain, we discussed how on earth plain dress could be modest~ with the attention it attracted.

We lived on the west coast & soon started dressing plain (what it meant to us 15 years ago- long skirts, very simple head coverings, etc) and we were started at, openly commented on, and followed to our vehicle with questions so often we kept cases of books in the back to hand out.

The books were: “The Kingdom that Turned the World Upside Down” by David Bercot, “Through the Eye of a Needle” by Roger Hertzler, and the workbook “The Faith Worth Dying For.”

Where we live now, we can dress plain as we want & no one bats an eye.
Did you ever run into Jason Logalusa's group out there? (My wife is from California too)
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No, that would’ve been interesting.

We were in western Washington State, way out in the woods.
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GoodGirl wrote: Wed Feb 07, 2024 6:17 pm No, that would’ve been interesting.

We were in western Washington State, way out in the woods.
Did you go to an Eastern church out there?
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GoodGirl wrote: Wed Feb 07, 2024 3:37 pm Before we became plain, we discussed how on earth plain dress could be modest~ with the attention it attracted.

We lived on the west coast & soon started dressing plain (what it meant to us 15 years ago- long skirts, very simple head coverings, etc) and we were started at, openly commented on, and followed to our vehicle with questions so often we kept cases of books in the back to hand out.

The books were: “The Kingdom that Turned the World Upside Down” by David Bercot, “Through the Eye of a Needle” by Roger Hertzler, and the workbook “The Faith Worth Dying For.”

Where we live now, we can dress plain as we want & no one bats an eye.
Could you write up 500-1000 words about this experience? I want to use it to encourage people to plant churches out west.
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I’d be interested in reading Neto’s thoughts on #3.
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Ernie wrote: Wed Feb 07, 2024 6:47 pm
Could you write up 500-1000 words about this experience? I want to use it to encourage people to plant churches out west.
Sure, I’d be honored to. We still lament the huge mission field we left! You know me~ the challenge will be to get it short enough. 😂 Just give me a week or so.

We were close to Rochester Mennonite (who we greatly appreciated once we found them), but they seemed too official & formidable (?) to many, and I think we were the middle ground, if that makes sense.
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Soloist wrote: Wed Feb 07, 2024 6:47 pm
GoodGirl wrote: Wed Feb 07, 2024 6:17 pm No, that would’ve been interesting.

We were in western Washington State, way out in the woods.
Did you go to an Eastern church out there?
No, but my husband would go out for breakfast with some of the men from Rochester, once we found them.

I didn’t get too close, because we knew we wanted to homeschool & also I was busy with all of our little ones.
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In case anyone finds this funny, we would see the Rochester Mennonite women shopping, and could not for the life of us figure out why they had Doritos & Mt Dew in their carts.

We thought they had a better system or something. 😋
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Neto wrote: Wed Feb 07, 2024 9:42 am I hesitated on #6.
6. Some ideas and values in life can be arrived at intuitively or by observation, and the Bible does not need to specifically address it, in order for the thing to be true or good. (However, we should not make such conclusions equal with the teaching we find in the Bible.)
What does it mean to hold to a teaching, but not put it on par with teaching of Scripture? Does this mean that it is to be represented as:
a.) a secondary doctrine?
b.) an application of a Biblical principle, either by direct application at the primary level, or as a secondary application?
c.) an item in the congregation's guidelines?
d.) an appeal from the pulpit, or in private conversation?
These are good questions. I do not think we should establish as doctrine, something that the Bible does not say, nor something that could be interpreted different ways in the New Testament.
For example, the NT talks about God the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit in various places. I think we should stop right there.
I was once part of a church whose doctrinal statement said, "God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit". I suggested that we change this to be what the New Testament says. They agreed and it was changed. The underlined is going beyond what the NT says. I don't have a problem with people believing the underlined, but I don't think it should be held at the same level as what the NT says.

When it comes to practical applications of NT principles and commands, I have no problem with a group of Christians agreeing together how they are going to put a teaching into practice. As long as they don't withhold communion, the holy kiss, and the right hand of fellowship from those who have a different application. And as long as they don't all agree to do something that God does not want them to do.
This is very different from a group of people agreeing that certain NT principles or commands are not for our day.
Neto wrote: Wed Feb 07, 2024 9:42 amIf the common expression "The Scripture is our authority for all matters of faith and conduct" is true, then how does this mesh with the idea of adding things which we feel are 'valid inferences"?
If everyone in a group is focused on obeying the teachings of the NT that are painfully easy to understand, this will take care of most disagreements. It is the things that are harder to understand that cause the most disagreements.

I guess I would need to hear what you think of when you say "valid inferences".
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GoodGirl wrote: Wed Feb 07, 2024 7:05 pm In case anyone finds this funny, we would see the Rochester Mennonite women shopping, and could not for the life of us figure out why they had Doritos & Mt Dew in their carts.

We thought they had a better system or something. 😋
:-)

Were you trying to do without these things when you started embracing "the plain lifestyle"?
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