Josh wrote:ragpicker wrote:Josh wrote:There seems to be a lot of knee-jerk defending of Stutzman with you, alongside a lot of knee-jerk attacking me for ever speaking out. Any idea why it seems this way?
I notice you're throwing my terminology back at me. That's a classic manipulation tactic. I am not saying you're intending it that way at all, just mentioning that I noticed it.
It's obvious you have exactly one agenda, and that's to defend Steve Stutzman at all costs.
I'm a lot more interested in truth, than in defending Steve Stutzman. Also, besides attacking him with false accusations, to defend him against true accusations would be one of the worst things I could do to him. To the best of my knowledge, I have never done either, and I want to be very careful to do neither. I spent quite a bit of time investigating allegations with an open mind, so it's kind of hard for me to sit here and be accused of what you just accused me of.
Josh wrote:I've had to deal with a rather large number of people who also seem to have the exact same agenda, and will do virtually anything to defend him regardless of how underhanded the tactics are.
Underhanded tactics, no matter who is doing them, is ugly and unacceptable. I can say, to the best of my recollection, every single communication I ever heard or saw from Steve and his board was asking people to not respond with defense or otherwise.
Josh wrote:In your defence, I haven't seen you do those things against me. No attempts to drag my ex-wife into this, no interfering with my church membership, no ringing up my job and trying to get me fired. (The latter did make for a very amusing conversation with my (now former) boss over some drinks when we were in Tel Aviv - mine non-alcoholic, of course.)
Just to clarify, it seems you accusing me of knee-jerk attacking you, but stating you've never seen me engage in underhanded tactics. Am I understanding your distinction correctly?
Josh wrote:This entire conversation eventually boils down to my word against... I don't know whose. You weren't there. Stutzman wasn't there. I was. I became a Christian in Hartville, Ohio, and then went to church there for several years. And I ended up, first-hand, in the middle of seeing a very ugly, immoral, sinful situation that was entirely my business.
Such situations are hard. I've been there too, and it's no fun. I care how it felt to you.
Josh wrote:Eventually someone has to stand up and speak out. I've said little about Stutzman. What is worth noting is how the attacks against me just never stop, and probably never will.
I can only imagine the pure hell the actual victims must have been put through. Many of them are not doing well at all, and all I see is further efforts made to isolate them and ostracise them from their families and communities.
When people are sexually violated, it gets really messy and few people seem to do well at helping victims and connected people navigate the messes it creates. The church of Jesus Christ has failed miserably.
ragpicker wrote:Josh wrote:There seems to be a lot of knee-jerk defending of Stutzman with you, alongside a lot of knee-jerk attacking me for ever speaking out. Any idea why it seems this way?
I notice you're throwing my terminology back at me. That's a classic manipulation tactic. I am not saying you're intending it that way at all, just mentioning that I noticed it.
In my communications with you and about Steve Stutzman over the last six months, can you please point out the specific ways I have:
1. Engaged in "knee-jerk defending of Stutzman"?
2. Engaged in "a lot of knee-jerk attacking [you] for ever speaking out"?
Thank you.
You made two very specific accusations against me. I responded with two specific requests for clarification. Would you mind answering them please? Thank you.
Embrace the lonely road.