Unique Weddings and Couples

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Joy wrote: Tue Feb 01, 2022 8:55 am "Worldly" sure is a handy label to stick on other believers. No requirement to prove the charge, or even define it.
How must God feel when we do this?

I've been guilty of it myself, but with age comes (thankfully) wisdom, and a realization of God's character and our own shortcomings and sins.
Ernie doesn’t often post in MennoLight, his OP seemed to request light-hearted input. :)

When i was growing up, in a not-Anabaptist home, my mother had some words of wisdom about weddings, i think ring true.
Possibly first was to respect other peoples’ weddings. Then, that the bride should not be “up-staged.” This is her/their once in a lifetime day, it should be respected. When it’s your day, it’s your turn.

White represented purity, sometimes there were gasps, esp if this was a second marriage, even of a widow. (i didn’t happen learn about Queen V until years later.) The popularity of the QV connection might be to simply detract from scriptural reference to purity. i don’t know.

White/ivory was not mandated. It came to be expected. It was to represent purity. There was a privilege to it.
By now, in the world, after BC pills, it means nothing. No one gasps when a multiple-divorced woman wears a bright white fancy wedding gown, tightly fitted, sometimes cut like a stripper’s costume. $$$$

Ernie may correct, for sure. :)
i didn’t understand the OP to be so much about Christian wedding customs, as about unique choices different couples have made for their day. The links on Page 1 reflected “unique.” Blizzards, horses.

Maybe if the request was “How was your wedding?” it would less critique-y. :mrgreen:

i’m interested in all wedding customs.
when my grdaughter was young, i had an idea to try to compile a book of various wedding customs with her, for her.
my daughter warned against, pointing out pushback if it did not include SSM.
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ken_sylvania wrote: Tue Feb 01, 2022 12:38 am I guess you could say there was a time when red churches, brown churches, any color of churches (meetinghouses) were considered worldly. Maybe the majority of conservative Anabaptists still feel that way.
Red, brown, yellow, black, and white; they are worldly in their sight.
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Joy wrote: Tue Feb 01, 2022 8:55 am "Worldly" sure is a handy label to stick on other believers. No requirement to prove the charge, or even define it. How must God feel when we do this?

I've been guilty of it myself, but with age comes (thankfully) wisdom, and a realization of God's character and our own shortcomings and sins.
I can apply a label with confidence to a Beachy guy (or a Holdeman guy) when I see him driving a jacked up pickup truck spewing a cloud of black smoke out the tailpipe. We can say "he seems a bit worldly". (Or we might say it when we see him styling in the latest fashions, particular jeans, particular shirt, buying coffees in the trendiest coffeehouse in town.)

The less familiar I am with someone's culture the less I would apply such a label. At some point it is perfectly acceptable to discern that some people seem to be moving in a worldly direction.
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ken_sylvania wrote: Tue Feb 01, 2022 8:17 am
Ernie wrote: Tue Feb 01, 2022 7:46 am
ken_sylvania wrote: Tue Feb 01, 2022 12:38 am I guess you could say there was a time when red churches, brown churches, any color of churches (meetinghouses) were considered worldly. Maybe the majority of conservative Anabaptists still feel that way.
I do. I assume you meant Plain Anabaptists?
Plain Anabaptists would have been more accurate. Thanks.
Not a big deal, but just wanted to clarify. I am thinking that many Amish still consider meetinghouses as worldly, whereas many Hutterites, Mennonites and Brethren seem to think of them as spiritual.
There are a lot of Mennonites who think that worshipping in homes, in a garage, or in a library, is something you want to do away with as soon as possible. To them, building a meeting house is a sign of stability, faithfulness, and right priorities, even if the meeting house or some parts of the meeting house are only used for a few hours each week.
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Ernie wrote: Tue Feb 01, 2022 7:04 pm
ken_sylvania wrote: Tue Feb 01, 2022 8:17 am
Ernie wrote: Tue Feb 01, 2022 7:46 am I do. I assume you meant Plain Anabaptists?
Plain Anabaptists would have been more accurate. Thanks.
Not a big deal, but just wanted to clarify. I am thinking that many Amish still consider meetinghouses as worldly, whereas many Hutterites, Mennonites and Brethren seem to think of them as spiritual.
There are a lot of Mennonites who think that worshipping in homes, in a garage, or in a library, is something you want to do away with as soon as possible. To them, building a meeting house is a sign of stability, faithfulness, and right priorities, even if the meeting house or some parts of the meeting house are only used for a few hours each week.
This would be a good topic for a new thread. I enjoyed meeting in homes back when we were with a house church.
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