Betty in Maine wrote: ↑Sat Nov 06, 2021 11:46 am
Having lost both parents in the last 3 years, I wouldn't want to "get over it" either, because to me that feels too much of getting over them. The "getting over it" that I am comfortable with is simply not having the urge anymore to call my Mom to tell her about some new delightful things her great-grandchildren are doing, because I remember she is no longer here. But her legacy, both my parents' legacies, good and bad, may I never get over, because that is where I think I would forget them. So, similar to what you wrote/shared, I am changed.
When my father died, I felt regular, strong grief for a year or two, then a dull pang. After about 8-9 years, I realized that I just didn't feel that anymore, I had the fond memories but no longer had the same degree of loss. It wasn't that I had forgotten him, but I had processed it. I had absorbed all that my father meant to me, I had absorbed his loss, and I no longer had to do that work.
Grief is good, I don't want people to be disposable, when we lose someone close, it's a real loss. Denial doesn't help me with this. Trusting God deeply does. He knows better than we do, it's all in his hands, it's beyond my knowledge. But grief is not a denial of God's power, grief is not distrust. The grief we feel while here on earth is real. We need to go through that to come to the other side of it. It's a way to mature in faith.
Betty in Maine wrote: ↑Sat Nov 06, 2021 11:46 amThank God, that one day, we shall see clearly.
Amen.
And while we are on earth, we see just a little more clearly, I think, when people like you share openly with us and we learn from each other. Thanks for doing this.
Is it biblical? Is it Christlike? Is it loving? Is it true? How can I find out?