Divorce Myths

[MaxPC]

Secular society pushes the myth that there are "good" divorces. Kindly share your perspective on whether a divorce is "bad" (has collateral damage to spiritual life and family); or whether it can be "good".

NOTE: This is not a thread for politics nor bashing others.

[steve-in-kville]

I know of very few that could be "good." In one situation, they planned it out, waited until the youngest child was out of school and split up. Assets were divided up as well.

[Josh]

Never good, and that includes ones where I think it was necessary.

In one story, there is a happy ending: after years of repeatedly falling into sins of cross dressing/homosexuality, pornography use, financial abuse, steroid / drug use, using tanning salons, and extreme vanity (bodybuilding), a young man sincerely repented and then passed away a few months later due to skin cancer from the lifestyle of sin.

His former wife was able to tell him she forgave him and he seemed sincere.

[Szdfan]

I also wouldn't use the word "good." A divorce is the result of a failed relationship. I do think that some divorces are necessary.

[steve-in-kville]

I also wouldn't use the word "good." A divorce is the result of a failed relationship. I do think that some divorces are necessary.

Good point. Are we safe to say that some divorces go smoother than others?

[Ken]

I also wouldn't use the word "good." A divorce is the result of a failed relationship. I do think that some divorces are necessary.

Good point. Are we safe to say that some divorces go smoother than others?

Well, obviously. Modern no-fault divorce laws also make that more possible. You can argue whether that is good or bad. But in the past divorce was more confrontational because the law required it be that way. I think it is probably a good thing that people can get divorced more amicably today without going through a lot of confrontational character assassination in court. Some of which was simply made up.

I have seen four basic types of divorces within my wider circle.

1. Reasonably amicable divorces between people who have grown apart for whatever reason. Sometimes infidelity is involved, sometimes not.

2. Two separate divorces in Texas where the man came out as gay and left his wife and family. One was more amicable than the other.

3. Divorces where the wife leaves an abusive spouse. Usually after years and years of trying to work it out and then finally reaching the breaking point.

4. Divorce where one spouse just refuses to grow up. Spends more time getting high with his friends or just hanging around rather than providing for his family or being there for his kids. Wife finally has enough and moves on.

As always there are two sides to every story. Somehow I usually hear the woman's side because most of these cases either involve parents of my daughter's friends, or students of mine. And it is far more common, even in this day and age, for kids to stay with their mother in these situations. Women also seem to talk more than men, and the guys I know who have gotten divorced tend not to talk about it nearly as much as the women do.

[Josh]

As always there are two sides to every story. Somehow I usually hear the woman's side because most of these cases either involve parents of my daughter's friends, or students of mine. And it is far more common, even in this day and age, for kids to stay with their mother in these situations. Women also seem to talk more than men, and the guys I know who have gotten divorced tend not to talk about it nearly as much as the women do.

Indeed, you seem to be unaware that divorces might exist where a husband has an abusive wife. And you also seem unaware that divorces happen where a wife was cheating. In your bizarre world, women are always virtuous and men are always bad. It's really odd.

[Ken]

As always there are two sides to every story. Somehow I usually hear the woman's side because most of these cases either involve parents of my daughter's friends, or students of mine. And it is far more common, even in this day and age, for kids to stay with their mother in these situations. Women also seem to talk more than men, and the guys I know who have gotten divorced tend not to talk about it nearly as much as the women do.

Indeed, you seem to be unaware that divorces might exist where a husband has an abusive wife. And you also seem unaware that divorces happen where a wife was cheating. In your bizarre world, women are always virtuous and men are always bad. It's really odd.

I said no such thing. What I said was that there are always two sides to every story and that for a variety of circumstances, in the divorces of which I am personally aware, I tend to hear the woman's side not the man's.

[dontperish]

Actually their are... good .....divorces as God is very good and He commanded them

Ezra 10:3 KJVS
Now therefore let us make a covenant with our God to put away all the wives, and such as are born of them, according to the counsel of my lord, and of those that tremble at the commandment of our God; and let it be done according to the law. ( this proves marriage permance is a lie as does God thru Moses allowing much divorce though it was for their hard hearts)

God even divorced Israel ... See Jer 3:8 and He is very Good!

Jesus also allowed it for fornication....and He is very Good being God!

Marriage permance is a lie meaning only one partner for life till death no matter what as God, Moses, Jesus and Paul all allowed for divorce and remarriage in biblical instances.

Preconversion divorce is washed way .. 2 Cor 5;17 all things are new.

Note: Two saints should not divorce unless it's a biblical case.

His Word is true ....

Tupos
Dontperish.com

[Josh]

Actually their are... good .....divorces as God is very good and He commanded them

The Bible says God hates divorce.

Marriage permance is a lie meaning only one partner for life till death no matter what as God, Moses, Jesus and Paul all allowed for divorce and remarriage in biblical instances.

Jesus taught us not to divorce our spouses, except for immorality.

Preconversion divorce is washed way .. 2 Cor 5;17 all things are new.

1 Cor. 7 says a believing spouse should not leave their spouse.
I don’t think just because we are born again, your commitments you made don’t matter. When I was born again I tried to reconcile with those I may have wronged.

Are you divorced and remarried?