Bootstrap wrote:temporal1 wrote:in addition to not offering alcohol to the alcholic, or consuming it in his presence, the alcoholic also has the responsibility to avoid the temptation, to avoid being in the presence of the temptation; to refuse the temptation when it cannot be avoided; to call on the Holy Spirit for guidance and strength.
I think that's true with women's modesty, too.
Women should dress in a way that doesn't make it particularly hard for men to do so. Men should take responsibility for their eyes and their thought life.
well, yes, on this forum, this is likely to enjoy a general consensus.
in less conservative churches, it is a problem, not likely to be discussed therein. not as things are today.
on MD, i recall serious complaints about church attire, in Europe, even in Catholic Churches.
i'm surprised to have seen bare arms, spaghetti straps, "leggings," and different formerly "basic" dress standards ignored today, even in churches considered to be conservative. many seem to not have any memory of dress standards that were formerly recognized in all denoms. i find this sad. but i see it.
occasionally, in comments on news reports, i have tried to share a word about modest dress for children and women, especially pregnant women.
i find today's fashions of displaying every stage of pregnancy, with or without any covering of the belly, unwise and undesirable. it makes me think of a science class, wherein stages of gestation are being studied .. i don't see the necessity.
further, with cases of pregnant women being attacked and even killed for theft of their unborn, displaying every stage seems .. as bad judgment as wearing a Rolex watch in gaudy display.
it's a serious temptation for thieves. an attractive nuisance.
however, when i have suggested/recommended modesty, in the world, the response is that i am some sort of evil being, out to ruthlessly+deliberately undermine women's rights.
i'm not reading news in general now, but, if i did, i would continue to occasionally broach the subject. yes, even risking personal attack. some may benefit, even if not responding.
not to preach, scold, or judge ..
but in attempt to inject some thinking about
an important topic that deserves to have at least two sides. after all, i really-seriously care about children and women. they deserve better messages. this goes for men, too. the messages are for all.
in your case, in a classroom setting of some sort, possibly you could set dress standards for the class? even if some ignored, the statement would be made, the subject addressed, without making it personal. male-only classes?
you could not approach the young woman directly about it. would any church recommend this?
if you cannot control others' dress, and it is a problem for you, then, i think it would be wise to not put yourself in that setting (my view.) your church, your brothers, should be asked.