Jesus teaches to be faithful to your wife or husband and not to divorce them, except for adultery.temporal1 wrote:there's much conflating of human law, human reasoning, and scriptures, without mutual recognition of when-where-how these leaps are being made.
on another note.
it's odd to imagine Jesus saying or suggesting we be faithful to "at least one marriage."
"pick one and stick with it?"
that sounds very human reasoning (to me.)
He doesn't talk much about what to do if your spouse leaves you, divorces you just because they want to be married to someone else.
It can be frustrating when the New Testament doesn't lay out a rigid code of what to do in every situation. I think that's where good pastors, good brothers and sisters in church, and good teaching can help each of us discern how we should live and how to handle situations not in scripture.
So I respect the way the Old Order Amish or Eastern approach marriage, and part of being in their community is accepting that. Easterns expect people like me not to reconcile with their first spouse. They have a lady who wanted to join their church, and since they didn't want her to get remarried, they sent a few families up to where she lived and started a new church, basically just for her. She feels content being a celibate person in that community now.
I respect the way moderate Beachy, Midwest, etc approach marriage as well - encouraging reconciliation with your first spouse. It's been good for me to learn to think that way.
I respect the Conservative Mennonite Conference's position where pastoral counselling and congregation discernment plays a role in helping people who are divorced or divorced and remarried figure out how to best walk in reconciliation with a past spouse, but also seek to accept those who are remarried and don't feel separation is the best way to follow Jesus.
I respect groups like the Apostolic Christian Church who discern that people in the world who haven't been following Jesus often don't understand that marriage should be for life, and accept that many people end up divorced or divorced and remarried before they start following Jesus. Yet they have very strong expectations of their own members - including converts - to not divorce and not remarry. I respect how they have maintained a culture with no divorce and remarriage yet do not expect converts with past divorces to become celibate.